Close Mindedness vs. Open Mindedness

I read something recently asking the question, “How open-minded are you?” The article was short and well done and by the end of it, I reconsidered the opening question in a more personal nature. I’ve identified several instances where I took a close-minded stance. In an effort of self-improvement, I want to write about this subject and perhaps help others.

The first thing we need to do is to consider the definition of being close-minded. These people don’t want their ideas challenged and find it frustrating to get the other person to agree at all. They are more interested in proving themselves right than in getting the best outcome. In listening to Dr. Phil, I hear him say quite often, “Do you want to fix this problem, or do you just want to be right?”

On the other hand, an open-minded person is curious as to why the other person disagrees and is willing to hear them out. They don’t mind changing their mind after consideration of what may be new facts.  They may decide to present their position in a different way so the other person can reconsider as well. There may even come the point where both people decide to agree to disagree. This sort of conversation can be stimulating but must remain civil for the benefit of both sides.

Being open-minded is a signal of humility. It means that we are willing to realize that we do not know everything, that we are open to learning something in a different light. It’s a part of our maturation process because we question things we’ve likely taken for granted.

The benefit of being open-minded can usually lead to something better. Historically speaking, any new invention has been preceded by someone who figured out a way to do something in a new and better way. The result of that decision is what has given us the technology, many comforts, and medical breakthroughs we enjoy today. Those are extreme examples of being open-minded. Imagine the advantages we could have in our individual lives if we opened ourselves to possibilities.

Perhaps we need to question everything and delve into other prospects reconsidering long-held stances. We might find that our viewpoint is valid and worthy of our support. On the other hand, we may realize there is an alternative perspective that better reflects our views. Just because we decide to change our minds doesn’t mean we are flaky. It means we are flexible enough to depict a new understanding.

I believe the purpose of my life on this earth is to gain experience. Because I believe in God, I feel the experience I gain temporally will somehow help me in my immortal life.  For that reason, I must be open-minded and do my best to consider all possibilities based on the information available. I must admit I’m slightly envious of my grandchildren who have so much of life ahead of them. At the same time, I’m scared for them and hope they can navigate through the mists of darkness that have often blinded me to worthwhile possibilities.

I found a great video on You Tube about being open-minded and will include the link. It is one of many done by it’s creator.